DEAR ABBY: I had this good friend that I met eight months in the past at an area boxing gymnasium right here in Chicago. We bought alongside extraordinarily effectively and even frolicked a few occasions. Nevertheless, she left her job on the gymnasium two months later and issues began falling aside.
I began sending extreme messages on her social media, and he or she did not prefer it. By the next month, she had sufficient. She informed me I’ve an unhealthy attachment to her and we might go our separate methods. She blocked me from all social media, and he or she hasn’t contacted me since.
4 months later, I’m higher, however she remains to be in my head. I actually wish to write her a pleasant and honest letter and reconcile together with her and have her be my good friend once more. I did not know that I used to be doing one thing incorrect.
I’ve tried reaching out to her a number of occasions not too long ago by way of e mail, to no avail. Within the meantime, considered one of her mates informed me she has moved to Texas, which makes it much more heartbreaking. How can I present her I may be her good friend once more with out exhibiting those self same “poisonous” behaviors? — GUY WITH A WOUNDED HEART
DEAR GUY: You might have already executed sufficient. You might have executed a lot, in actual fact, that the younger lady felt she was being stalked. She has despatched you clear indicators that she’s not taken with being mates — or something extra — with you. In your personal sake, take the trace, depart her alone and, please, study from this expertise so you will not repeat it with another person.
DEAR ABBY: I’m 60, and my husband is 64. We misplaced the whole lot within the recession. An expensive good friend helped us get again on our ft, and my son and husband constructed a house on land we bought with our final greenback. We now have a mortgage and all of the payments that include it. We now have no financial savings, pension or life insurance coverage. I work 40 hours per week, and my husband is partially disabled from an autoimmune illness.
My son, who’s finding out to grow to be an RN, is 33. He lives with us and pays $550 a month, which pays the property taxes. He has slowly introduced his girlfriend into our house, whom we like, however she doesn’t contribute financially. I’ve requested my son for some extra cash, and he refused. We’ll all the time recognize how he pitched in and helped us in creating a brand new house. What can I do with out beginning a household struggle? — KEEPING THE PEACE
DEAR KEEPING: It could have been fascinating to know what purpose your son gave you for his refusal. Proceed speaking with him about it. Until the girlfriend is unemployed, she ought to a minimum of pay for her meals and a share of the utilities if she resides in your house.
DEAR READERS: That is Nationwide Girls’s Well being Week. Due to the present well being disaster, taking good care of your well being is now extra necessary than ever. Make it a precedence. Eat wholesome, give your self the present of train, handle your stress ranges, get the sleep you want, and schedule that appointment to see your physician or dentist as quickly as they’re seeing sufferers once more. Take steps to get rid of behaviors that put you in danger — smoking, texting whereas driving and never carrying a seatbelt. Your well being is your most valuable possession, so please, handle it. For extra info, go to womenshealth.gov. — Love, ABBY
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