DEAR ABBY: I had this pal that I met eight months in the past at an area boxing gymnasium right here in Chicago. We acquired alongside extraordinarily nicely and even frolicked a few instances. Nevertheless, she left her job on the gymnasium two months later and issues began falling aside.
I began sending extreme messages on her social media, and he or she did not prefer it. By the next month, she had sufficient. She instructed me I’ve an unhealthy attachment to her and we’d go our separate methods. She blocked me from all social media, and he or she hasn’t contacted me since.
4 months later, I’m higher, however she remains to be in my head. I actually wish to write her a pleasant and honest letter and reconcile together with her and have her be my pal once more. I did not know that I used to be doing one thing improper.
I’ve tried reaching out to her a number of instances just lately by way of electronic mail, to no avail. Within the meantime, one among her pals instructed me she has moved to Texas, which makes it much more heartbreaking. How can I present her I could be her pal once more with out exhibiting those self same “poisonous” behaviors? — GUY WITH A WOUNDED HEART
DEAR GUY: You have got already finished sufficient. You have got finished a lot, in reality, that the younger girl felt she was being stalked. She has despatched you clear indicators that she’s not occupied with being pals — or something extra — with you. In your personal sake, take the trace, go away her alone and, please, be taught from this expertise so you will not repeat it with another person.
DEAR ABBY: I’m 60, and my husband is 64. We misplaced all the pieces within the recession. An expensive pal helped us get again on our toes, and my son and husband constructed a house on land we bought with our final greenback. We’ve got a mortgage and all of the payments that include it. We’ve got no financial savings, pension or life insurance coverage. I work 40 hours every week, and my husband is partially disabled from an autoimmune illness.
My son, who’s learning to turn into an RN, is 33. He lives with us and pays $550 a month, which pays the property taxes. He has slowly introduced his girlfriend into our residence, whom we like, however she doesn’t contribute financially. I’ve requested my son for some more money, and he refused. We’ll at all times respect how he pitched in and helped us in creating a brand new residence. What can I do with out beginning a household warfare? — KEEPING THE PEACE
DEAR KEEPING: It will have been fascinating to know what cause your son gave you for his refusal. Proceed speaking with him about it. Until the girlfriend is unemployed, she ought to at the least pay for her meals and a share of the utilities if she resides in your house.
DEAR READERS: That is Nationwide Ladies’s Well being Week. Due to the present well being disaster, caring for your well being is now extra essential than ever. Make it a precedence. Eat wholesome, give your self the present of train, handle your stress ranges, get the sleep you want, and schedule that appointment to see your physician or dentist as quickly as they’re seeing sufferers once more. Take steps to remove behaviors that put you in danger — smoking, texting whereas driving and never carrying a seatbelt. Your well being is your most treasured possession, so please, care for it. For extra info, go to womenshealth.gov. — Love, ABBY
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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